The Belief Distillery Melanie Parker Hypnotherapy Fears / phobias 2 Simple Steps to ditch your fear FOR GOOD today

2 Simple Steps to ditch your fear FOR GOOD today

Who will look after your children if you get CoVid19? Who will do your parent’s shopping if you are too ill to get out of bed? Who will run your business if you are unable to?

With the increasing availability of vaccines to protect us against the Coronavirus, it is becoming more likely that you will soon be offered a vaccine, but what if you are too afraid of the needle to protect yourself and your family?

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There are times your fear or phobia of needles as held you back. You have been conflicted, racked with guilt, knowing that you want what is in that little glass vial but unable to have it. You have tried everything but you just can’t do it.

I’m going to tell you, you probably haven’t tried everything and you absolutely can.

Our mind responds to the images we create, the more powerful and “real” those images, the more power they have over us and the more real they seem.

The risks and benefits to the vaccines against CoVid19 are easy to find and you have probably already researched them, trying to reason your way to having the vaccine with logic, so I’m not going to cover those here, but if you have decided the vaccine is for you, if you have people who depend on you, if you still can’t imagine being able to feel indifferent towards that needle then These 2 simple steps are for you:

  1. Think about and write down the words you use when you talk about vaccines or needles.

You may have come up with words similar to those below.

  • Petrified
  • Terrified
  • Anxious

Now cross them out and change it to the words, “I’m not a fan of needles”. This may feel silly or that I don’t truly understand how deep this runs for you- trust me, I do. But by taking away all the power and emotion from the words you say, you are diminishing the phobia, every time you change the words, you are taking away it’s power over you.

  1. Now think about the feelings you feel when you are gripped by fear before an injection. The tightness in your chest, the shortness of breath, the energy vibrating through you telling you to run or freeze, all the tell-tale signs of anxiety.

Now rather than a needle, think about the last time you were truly excited. Were you on a rollercoaster? Were you getting married? Really think about how your body felt in that moment. Your heart beating in your chest, breathing heavy with anticipation and your body vibrating with energy – notice anything?

Your body reacts in exactly the same way whether you are excited or terrified. Your brain doesn’t even know the difference, in fact, the only difference is the images you assign to the feeling.

So you need to lie to your mind. Tell your mind you are excited about all the benefits. It doesn’t care if you actually believe this yourself right now, it is letting it in, absorbing it like a sponge and making tiny changes every time you decide to give your feelings this new narrative. Lie, cheat and steal your power back.

The easiest way to access our subconscious mind is through music. So put your party anthem on, you know the one, the one that brings you joy and strength. Remind yourself that although you may not be a fan of needles, you are so excited about the result. You will soon be drinking tea with friends, taking your children back to the park and partying like the Rockstar you know you are!

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And of course, if you need more support you can book yourself an RTT Session.

Although not an RTT therapist, the wonderful Roz Knox is a respected and trusted hypnotherapist and has this amazingly generous offer for all front line key workers. Check out her amazing, FREE offer here


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Why we procrastinate and how to get moving againWhy we procrastinate and how to get moving again

The chances are, while reading this, you are putting something off right now. We all procrastinate, we put off the difficult or unpleasant tasks until a time we feel we will be more prepared, sometimes though we just don’t know why we can’t seem to get a task done. Here I am going to share with you why that is, and what you can do about it to find motivation right now.

This week, I had a phenominal Hypnotherapy session with a lady who wanted to stop procrastinating. Using RTT to get to the root of her issues and distil her beliefs, ridding everything that was unhelpful and adding new beliefs to help her achieve her goals in life, I learnt something about myself and how I procrastinate too.

This session was so informative for me as well as my client, and some of what was revealed to me is outlined below.

We don’t only procrastinate when it comes to putting off icky like tax returns. There are many reason’s we may not do something important, and sometimes we are affected by more than one of these things at the same time.

For those tasks, understanding how the mind works can easily help you find the motivation to complete it. Did you know, the most successful people in life do the things they hate, FIRST. Getting the unpleasant tasks out of the way at the beginning of the day sets you up for success. You no longer have the thing hanging over your head, you are filled with a sense of achievement that will motivate you throughout the day.

How you perceive the thing is also important, if you are telling yourself, “I have to do my taxes, they are so hard and I hate the paperwork”, your mind, who’s job it is to move you away from pain and towards pleasure, will immediately start working on ways to avoid the pain of doing your tax return.

Just don’t let the Mother-in-Law know you scheduled the zoom call at 8am to get it out of the way!

Another reason we can put off jobs is fear. You are asking yourself, what if I fail? what if I can’t do it? what if I’m not good enough? And you have lots of images in your mind of exactly what would happen in those scenarios. Again, you are telling your mind that doing the thing is going to cause you harm, or has a high likelihood of doing so. Your mind doesn’t care that this is completely untrue, or the chances are four-billion to 1, it believes everything you tell it. You have told it the thing will cause you pain, so it makes sure you have no motivation or inclination to do it, clever hey?

The last reason, is also fear. But this time, it’s a fear of success. That sounds crazy doesn’t it, but the idea of being singled out could terrify someone who was bullied as a child. The idea that money corrupts and that those with money are evil, are going to subconsciously behave in a way that keeps them from having an abundance. The fear of leaving our oldest friends behind as we move forward with our lives. This fear of success and having ‘money blocks’ is holding many of us entrepreneurs back from even taking that first step, let alone the next.

Again, the mind is trying to be our best friend and the best PA, understanding that subconsciously, these thoughts are saying, “I don’t want that”, and doing it’s best to help us avoid it.

If you re-frame these thoughts into a choice, then your mind is less likely to react and help you to stay focused. “I am choosing to do my taxes early, and feel great about knowing they are out of the way for the rest of the day.”

By improving the words and pictures we give ourselves, we can radically change how we feel about things, including how motivated we are. If you feel you have a specific block to moving forward or a fear that is holding you back, you may find that getting to the root and distilling your beliefs is something you wish to try under hypnosis. If procrastination is something you want to work on with yourself, please reach out.

I am currently looking into building a mailing list with useful tips on how you can help yourself improve your levels of motivation. If you would like to be on this list, please drop me an email at


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Conquering Self-Doubt: A Journey to Overcome Trauma and Embrace EmpowermentConquering Self-Doubt: A Journey to Overcome Trauma and Embrace Empowerment

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The Transformative Power of an ACE in Understanding and Overcoming Unresolved Childhood TraumaThe Transformative Power of an ACE in Understanding and Overcoming Unresolved Childhood Trauma

I mentioned on TikTok this week about ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences – not cards), impact on your life and a fellow friend of mine who works with Trauma through a different methodology told me she had never heard of it, so I thought if she hasn’t heard of this – maybe you haven’t either?

Our beliefs about who we are, the world and how those pieces fit together are formed throughout our early childhood. For some, this could mean that they fell into a pond when they were little and now they don’t like being near open water, for some this could mean a strong association between feeling loved and the smell of freshly baked cupcakes.

For others though, it could mean they learnt that no one was interested in what they had to say. It could mean they learnt that they were only worth something when they were winning. or worse still, that they didn’t deserve love and happiness.

That is where ACE’s come in. The Adverse Childhood Experience Assessment was developed in the 80’s by Dr. Vincent Felitti in his Obesity Clinic. He came up with a hypothesis that the problems some of his clients had with food, was actually a coping mechanism for trauma. Since then it has been further developed and even more poor outcomes in later life have been linked to having 1 or more of these experiences, with the more experiences being linked to worse outcomes in life.

It has been discovered that ACE’s can have a profound effect on a persons physical and mental health throughout their life, including;

  • Heart health problems, such as coronary heart disease.
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • PTSD
  • Phobias
  • Alcohol abuse
  • Drug abuse
  • Eating Disorders, such as over or under eating
  • Developmental Disruption – presenting very similarly to ASD / ADHD / ADD
  • Increase risk of Auto-immune disease
  • Liver Disease
  • Cancer
  • Lower income
  • Lower education level
  • Problems forming relationships
  • and many others

I have spent more than half my life knowing I was different, growing up most of my friends were much older than me, I didn’t have a lot in common with my peers. I thought I had a form of undiagnosed ASD because I ticked so many of the boxes, even while doing my hypnotherapy training this was never explained to me in detail. It wasn’t until I started learning more about treating Trauma and delving into a specific trauma awareness course kindly held by the Arizona Trauma Institute that I even started hearing about this. Thankfully I am now and people are becoming more aware of how brain development and physical health, not just mental health, is affected by the experiences we go through in our formative years.

I will be sharing the ACE assessment in my newsletter this week, if you are interested or it could benefit someone you know, don’t miss out and sign up now!

I would love to meet you and hear more about your experiences with trauma in a supportive and kind space. For more tips and info from me, please join me over on Facebook.