I lost myself, and my confidence, direction and self-belief on the way, but I found it again and more and I’m going to show you how.
Things have been changing for me lately, a lot! My youngest (and last!!!) baby has started school, we lost our family dog Layla during the Summer and I’ve taken a step back and really asked myself the following questions to find my footing and gain confidence in myself again:
- Who am I now?
- Who do I want to be?
- What is important to me right now?
- What do I stand for?
Okay, maybe they aren’t that simple?
I’m going to be totally honest, I didn’t have a clue. It’s okay to not have a clue. They are big questions that most of us don’t ask ourselves often enough? Most people don’t know the answers, that is why there is a billion pound industry dedicated to life coaches, books on finding your purpose and you tube videos. While researching this article I came across a TEDEX talk on how to find your life purpose in 5 minutes with over 19million views! So if your sitting there reading this, have confidence you aren’t alone.
Navigating the changes in my life felt like crossing an ocean. I felt adrift in a sea of chaos just being cast from one shipwreck to the next with no chance to get back on course, constantly fighting the current and becoming exhausted. So I did what they tell you do if you are caught out at sea, I stopped trying to swim and floated.
I took some time away and really answered these questions, and I know that who I am now, in September, is a different person I was before school broke up in May. Not unrecognizable, but subtle shifts in what is important and remembering why I started a hypnotherapy business, what I want to be remembered for and the change I want to see in the world. My confidence has developed further than it was before and I believe in myself again.
I value honesty, kindness and compassion above all else. Everyone has the capacity for kindness. I didn’t think I did once – I was hurt and thought all I would ever be capable of was hurting those around me. I still have moments like that, but I know they aren’t true, they aren’t even my words. They are a belief that a small child formed to understand the world she was subjected to and aren’t relevant to me today. Remembering that and to take my meds…actually better do that excuse me!!!
I am not perfect, and I am perfectly okay with that (most of the time). If you think about it, wouldn’t it be strange if we met someone in our lives who was perfect? We would be freaked out like they were an android or something because there is no such thing in nature as perfection. Sometimes it’s the flaws we perceive in ourselves, that often make us the most endearing to others.
That is who I am, that is what is important to me and that is what I want people to remember about me and that is what I am going to live, my true authentic self. I have a compass again and feel confident navigating the next part of my journey.
I am happier and more at ease in myself, I’m calmer and more understanding with my children. More confident in my parenting. They are happy to see me and want to play with me. I feel empowered and capable because, I may not have a detailed map – but I have a clear heading.
To find your confidence and what’s really important to you as you move forward in life, I will be breaking down these questions over the next few weeks in my Free Newsletter. Subscribers will gain direction and empowerment in who they are by working through the steps. To get this exclusive content completely free, subscribe below.