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Why you haven’t lost weight this week?Why you haven’t lost weight this week?

The diet industry is not fir for purpose and it has become clear that many women are struggling with the pressure to succeed. I’ve heard from a lot of ladies who feel stressed, unmotivated at their clubs because they didn’t drop a stone on week 1 or are progressing much slower than expected – this breaks my heart!

Has this ever happened to you?

How did you feel? I used to feel like it was my fault. That I must have done something wrong on the diet without realising, or that my body just didn’t work the same as others and wasn’t as good. I was worried about weigh ins, and if I hadn’t lightened by at least 3lb I felt awful about myself. Even when I shed 1 lb, I beat myself up as it wasn’t “enough”.

So why does this happen?

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When we lose weight fat cells break down, but what a lot of people aren’t taught, is that those cells don’t break down immediately. The body likes to be prepared, and if the cells are needed again soon they need to be ready. Rather than breaking down, the fat reservoir fills with water. By the time you weigh in, they are still heavy, although you have lost fat. Once the body knows those cells are no longer necessary for you, they break down and you finally see that reward on the scales.

Drinking enough water is the best way to stay hydrated. When our bodies are properly nourished, we retain less than if they’re lacking anything else! That’s why it’s important for everyone – keep drinking 8 glasses every day.

If you are getting lighter on your diet, but getting frustrated as the weight is going, but not as fast as you like try this exercise:

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Grab a bag and raid your cupboards. Take out packets and tins and whatever you need to do until the bag weighs the same as the amount of weight you have shed since you started your diet. Now take that bag with you everywhere you go for the day, walking the dog, to the park with the kids. Even to the loo!

In the evening when you put that bag down and put everything back in your cupboards, notice how much lighter you feel without it. How much easier it is to move. You used to carry that weight around with you everyday and now you can put it down. The more weight you drop, the easier your life will become.

You are not alone in your weight loss journey. Many people have embarked on the same path and achieved great success. Remember, it is important to be patient and allow your body time to adjust as you make healthy changes. Stay focused on your goals, take things one step at a time, and remember to enjoy the process! I am here to support you every step of the way. Are you ready to get started?


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Pleasure vs PainPleasure vs Pain

For most of people, in most of situations pain is pretty far away from pleasure, in fact our minds job is to move us away from pain and towards pleasure.

Yet, most of the time, when we are dieting we work against our brain and put ourselves through pain.

Okay, I’m not saying we stick forks in our hand so we don’t eat cake – not that kind of pain. But small emotional pains that all add up.

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People focus on denying themselves certain foods. They focus on getting up at 5am to go for a run in the rain when they would really rather have a lay in and a cuppa. I used to deny myself carbs and chocolate. I would tell myself I can’t have wine, I have to exercise, I shouldn’t have cake, I must stick to my diet.

What you are saying is, I would like to have this, but my diet is forcing me to do something I don’t want to – you are focusing on the pain.

Have you ever been told to do something you were planning to do anything and then not done it, simply because you were being told to?

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As humans, we don’t like to be told what to do (funny that) so we rebel, even when it is to our own detriment. We cut our nose off to spite our face.

These pains may be small, but our mind still sees it as it’s job to move us away from pain and towards pleasure (the thing we are telling ourselves that we can’t have).

Inevitably we ‘fall off the wagon’, our minds send us every signal it can to ensure it, and then do we feel happy? No, we feel guilty and ashamed because we shouldn’t have eaten a whole bar of chocolate and a bag of Haribo! And now we are in pain, the whole cycle starts again.

But what if we could change that? What if we could link pleasure our diet? To enjoy eating foods that nourish our bodies, give us energy to excel in ourselves and wear the clothes we love?

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You can, by simply changing your focus.

Rather than dictating to yourself all the things you can’t have. Look at the things you can have and the life you creating each time you make healthy choices. Look at all the exciting delicious meals you can make on your favourite apps, look at the wonderful clothes you will be able to wear and think about all you will be able to do by CHOOSING a healthy option every time you CHOOSE a snack. Think about how much fitter and stronger your body is getting every time you CHOOSE to get up and work out.

By making this small change to how you view your diet, you begin re-wiring your brain to link pleasure to making healthy choices. You could take this a step further and remind yourself when you are reaching for an unhealthy snack or skip a workout that you are choosing to slow your progress towards your ideal weight and everything you will gain from being slim.

If you want to change your eating habits, or any other unhealthy behaviour, start by linking pleasure to the things that are good for you, and pain to the things you want to eliminate from your life. When it comes to making healthy changes, this is one of the most powerful techniques at your disposal. Make today the day you book a free call with me so we can get started on creating an action plan tailored specifically for you. Together, we can make your dreams of a healthier lifestyle a reality.


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Going out, without the scales going upGoing out, without the scales going up

Are you struggling to stick to your diet when you go out? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. In fact, a recent study found that 71% of people struggle to stay on track when they eat out. But don’t give up just yet – there are a few things you can do to make sure you don’t fall off the wagon.

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Whether you are going to a children’s party, a high end restaurant or drinking with friends, don’t go hungry.

When we start to feel hungry and the only things available are turkey dinosaurs and cakes, or we feel ‘starving’ by the time the menu shows up when we are out, we are more likely to over-eat and any diet goes out the window. I’m not saying go out for dinner on top of a full meal, but making sure you have had a handful of nuts or a light snack before you leave and you will make it easier to order the food you want and stay away from the buffet table.

If you are eliminating certain things from your diet or just trying to cut down on fat, check the menu in advance and make sure they cater for your diet. Most places will serve sauces on the side or swap a side if you ask, however don’t expect them to completely change a recipe because you don’t want cream in your creamy mushroom pasta!

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You don’t have to eat everything on your plate!

Portion sizes in a lot of ‘family’ restaurants are ridiculous. Too much food makes you feel uncomfortable, bloated and sluggish. Waste food, is waste food. Whether you put it in the bin or store it as fat, it is still waste and sabotaging your diet goals.

You can and will find it empowering to leave food on your plate. If someone else is paying and you don’t want to seem ungrateful, ask for a ‘doggy bag’ and discretely throw it out when you get home or save some for another day.

The same for birthday cakes, sweets and chocolates. You don’t need to feel like you are making someone else feel bad or that you are in any way being rude when there are biscuits in the office, or great-aunt Mildred has baked you a cake. You can tell your friend or family member, “Thank you so much, I’m a little full right now but please can I have it to take home to enjoy later”. Then you haven’t refused or found yourself in an awkward conversation with that one…you know who I mean. The one that says, “go on, it’s only a little bit”.

Finally and most importantly to keep you making the choices that you want to make for your diet, have the body and life you want, is that you need to change your associations with food.

A vegetarian doesn’t feel tempted to eat meat, a vegan doesn’t feel like they are battling with the urge to devour a fry-up. Why?

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The pictures and images they associate in their minds with these foods create a powerful blueprint. Rather than images of a juicy burger and thinking at how yummy it is, they have locked onto an image of a distressed animal. That image is so powerful that they become indifferent to, or even disgusted by things they may once have enjoyed. They no longer link pleasure to eating meat but instead link images of immense suffering and pain.

You can do this with any food, when you think of flour you can conjure images of delicious cakes and memories with grandma, or you can choose to re-wire your mind to see images of making glue in school with flour and water. Wallpaper paste. That disgusting gloopy mess clogging up your insides. You can do this with any food, in either direction, making the things you want to eat more of even more appealing.

If you’re feeling motivated to make some changes but could use a little help, don’t worry. I have plenty of advice and support available here on the blog, as well as my free 30-minute chat service. So book a call with me today! I can’t wait to hear about your adventures in socialising!


The biggest dieting mistakes we have all madeThe biggest dieting mistakes we have all made

We all make mistakes when it comes to dieting, but some are more common than others. Here are the biggest mistakes that we have all made at one point or another – read on to find out how you can avoid them!​

When starting a new diet, a lot of us tend to go through our cupboards and take out everything we feel we “can’t have”. We cleans our homes and remove temptation, which isn’t a bad thing in itself, but what are you saying to yourself while you do this?

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If you are saying you must get it out of the house so it doesn’t tempt you, you are telling yourself that food is more powerful than you are. That you have no control and, although that simply isn’t true, your mind believes this. Equally, when you tell yourself you “aren’t allowed” certain foods, your subconsious feels that your liberty and agency is being taken away, something that as human beings, we really don’t like. We instinctively push back when we are told not to do something and to our subconsious this is no less true when talking about restricting our food.

When purging your cupboards or feel tempted by certain foods, tell yourself you are throwing out the rubbish that no longer serves you. You are purging your home of things that don’t align with your goal and you feel amazing and excited about the changes you are making.

When you feel tempted by food, remind yourself that you have control over your eating, and choosing to eat healthily. You are choosing to put healthy, delicious fuel in your body over rubbish and you feel amazing about it. You are empowered by the healthy choices you are making.

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The next mistake we often make is talking about how much weight we want to lose. How much we have lost. Losing weight.

Think about loss, losing your keys. Losing your money, your house, a loved one. Loss is a negative emotion and causes pain. Whether it’s the minor annoyance at losing your keys, or deep grief and distress at losing a person, your amazing mind’s job is to move away from pain and towards pleasure, and it does it amazingly well. The problem is that, just like an excited puppy that wants to please you, everything is black and white. Just in the same way that you can’t say to a puppy jumping on the sofa is bad unless it’s the weekend, you can’t tell your mind that loss is bad, except when you are talking about your weight.

the good news is, now you are aware of this, it is easy to chose to stop talking about loss when you are referring to your weight goals and use language that doesn’t have your mind working overtime against you. Some good examples to get you started are “shedding weight”, “I am reducing”, “Getting rid of the excess”. What would you tell yourself?

The last mistake all of us been on this journey before make, is when the diet fails.

I used to beat myself up and feel a failure. I felt guilty and ashamed I couldn’t do something that so many others seemed to find so easy. Diets aren’t designed to work with our human brain. It is a regime based on logic, but as humans we spend 90% of our time living in a world interpreted by our emotions.

If this isn’t your first attempt, or even your second, it’s not your fault. Reducing weight, often means finding the reason you have the weight in the first place and removing it. Through RTT I guide my clients to see the reason why they haven’t succeeded previously and remove the old, unhelpful beliefs around food. I then install the right beliefs, that serve my clients to reach their goals. Whether that be a becoming fitter and healthier for their children, to feel sexier and more confident or to wear the clothes they want to wear.

Using RTT I have given clients the freedom to be the slim, sexy confident, energetic person they were born to be for good.

If you are ready to ditch the diets, and be free from the restrictions that have been holding you back, I want to help. Book a call with me today so we can discuss your specific goals and how we can use RTT to help you achieve them. You deserve to be happy, healthy, and confident in your own skin- let me show you how it’s done!


Why your past is stopping you shed weight nowWhy your past is stopping you shed weight now

If your mind is hardwired to avoid pain and seek pleasure, why are you unhappy with your weight?

Almost everything we experience in our bodies is related to our beliefs and the connections we have forged to experiences we have gone through. In the amazing book The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel Van Der Kolk explains the connection beautifully but alas, I am no such writer so I will share with you some very summarised case studies from RTT that explain better.

A man who was overweight and extremely unhappy with his life came in to see Marisa Peer for therapy. When he was regressed in every scene he wished he could be bigger. He had older siblings afforded much more freedom, he was bullied, he felt small.

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This man, as a young boy had made the connection that being small equated to being vulnerable, feeling unsafe and not treated equally. He was always wishing to be ‘bigger’.

Another woman came into that office at a different time, she also wanted help with her weight. This time, when she was regressed she related experiences of sexual abuse and trauma. She was a beautiful young girl who had a lot of attention. She thought to herself as a young child, this wouldn’t happen to me if I were ugly.

Lastly myself, due to my experiences as a child when I was put into care, I was only really shown affection with food. I was fattened up because I needed it and when I felt sad, rather than cuddles and someone to talk to, I was given sweets and chocolate and treats. Nothing I did was ever enough in that house and I was only happy when I was eating.

It’s an interesting and sad statistic that 1:4 women will have experienced some kind of sexual abuse, but it is more interesting still that those 1:4 are twice as likely to become addicted to food.

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Although every one of these people linked huge pain to being overweight and wanted to be thinner and healthier, they linked a bigger, more visceral pain to the experiences they had as a child. Their amazing child like minds created a solution to the problem they were experiencing as children, but as adults this was still going on their subconsious and they were unable to break the cycle without help.

Through RTT these people, myself included, live healthy amazing lives. We are slim without needing to diet, we make choices that benefit ourselves naturally and we never again feel like we need to be bigger to have the safety, love and security each and every person is worthy of.

Permanent change is possible, but it starts with you. Dieting, surgery, intense exercise plans only change the behaviour, and when you don’t change the belief, that is never a perminant change. Most of the time, we actually link pain to these activities. The muscle pain, feeling hungry, feeling denied. It is only when we change the belief, create that safety and love within ourselves without needing to be big or eat that we can truly be permanently successful.

If you are interested in learning more about how I can help you achieve permanent success without all of the pain and struggle please book a call with me TODAY. Together we can find freedom from dieting for good!


How memories can keep you from reaching your weight loss goalsHow memories can keep you from reaching your weight loss goals

I have always loved cakes.

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I remember the smell in my house when grandma was baking them, and how that sweet sugar coated everything around me – the racks of cooling papers on either side as they let out their fragrance to meet me at eye level.

Needing fattening up as my grandmother would say, I entered her care at 6 years old. I had known what it was to be truly hungry at that point and be without food. So my grandma would always make this creamy chicken and tagliatelle dish on a Saturday, I would be encouraged to have seconds and told to clear my plate.

I was given mountains of Beef Stroganoff and I cannot remember an evening that we didn’t have a desert (unless we were being punished).

And the deserts were amazing. If I was sad or needed attention of any kind, there would be a cake, a chocolate bar, a biscuit.

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However, when I was living with my now husband in our twenties, I was getting bigger and bigger. I tried dieting, but I always ended up giving up and planning to start again tomorrow. I had never made the connection between my comfort eating and my learning food was a comfort.

Food, especially rich butter and cream laden dishes or sugary treats became the way I felt closer to my grandma. My type 2 diabetic, highly unhealthy and wonderful grandma. When I realised this, I also realised something else.

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My grandma would be horrified if she had lived to see the damage I had done to my body trying to remember the love and affection I felt when she fed me. She would not want me to make myself as unwell as she was in order to feel close to her. She would be heartbroken if she ever knew that her amazingly well intentioned acts had helped inform the choices I had made time and time again over food.

The amazing thing about knowing this about myself is it has enabled me to recognise these characteristics in myself. I never need to eat cake or chocolate to be comforted as I am able to comfort myself in other ways. I realised that the reason I was unable to diet is that diets aren’t made for people like me, people who have a strong emotional connection to food (which is most of us) and need to understand and overcome those barriers. Once you overcome them, you never need to diet again as your diet naturally changes. You automatically cut down on the foods that are making you unhealthy and unwell because you can unlink those memories to the action of eating.

I can show you how to do this and more in my FREE Webinar. Join me on the 15 February 2022 at 8pm in my Facebook group Radiant Balance to be part of this incredible process.


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It’s Not Your FaultIt’s Not Your Fault

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“Just eat less and move more”

“Have you tried this new diet?”

Well no – thank you Karen I haven’t tried the ‘only eat a cube of cheese and dried ice diet’. Really, that’s all I need to do, thank you so much!

It seems easy doesn’t it, you look around the slimming group at everyone making losses except you. You try to diet but your resolve disappears the moment you have a bad day and you feel disgusted with yourself.

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At least, that is how I felt. I would lose some weight, plateau and then put it all back on plus interest. It always looks so easy for everyone else. I understood the logic and the information around food, but always seemed to make poor decisions.

Now I understand why I am free from all the guilt and shame that went with my binge eating.

The truth is there are several factors at play as to why we over-eat and are drawn to certain foods, but the one I’m focusing on right now is our ancestry.

What do a lot of dead relatives have to do with why you feel overweight though?

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We are descended from cave-men. Tribal hunters. One of the greatest threats to our survival was starvation. If a deer went past and you said, “not today, I don’t fancy deer” then it could cost you yours and your families life. If you saw food of any kind you wanted it. And the most prized form of food – energy dense sugar. Hard to come-by if you’re a cave-man, bees don’t just give you their precious honey after all. So when there is a source of food, especially sugar, we are hard-wired to want it, in much the same way that animals are hard-wired to be afraid of fire, even they haven’t experienced it.

Nature actually wants us all to be over-weight. If we are over-weight, we have plenty of reserves for the leaner times – but of course now, with a 24hr McDonalds in every town and a corner shop in walking distance from every home, we don’t have lean times.

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I used to put treats into the cupboard and ration them out according to syns or points. I once spent my evening individually wrapping portions of Galaxy from one of those Giant bars. I would tell myself that I was allowed a little each day and that would work for the first two or three. Then by stressful day 4 when the children have driven me potty and work sucked I find myself inexplicably surrounded by cling-wrap. It called to me. I couldn’t stop thinking about it until it was gone.

This however, isn’t something to feel guilty about. It isn’t something to be ashamed over. It is our normal and correct reaction under the circumstances.

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But we can change our hard-wiring. We can remove these beliefs that are holding us back from becoming the fittest, leanest versions of ourselves and I can’t wait to show you how.

To unlock the secrets to being a naturally thin person, to have more energy and feel sexier, join me for my FREE Webinar on the 15th January and I will share with you some amazing tips for overcoming these blocks and instantly eating up to 30% less food. Access will be via my Facebook Group, if you aren’t already part of this growing and caring community, then please join us here


Eat up to 30% less food with 1 easy stepEat up to 30% less food with 1 easy step

How often do you say things to yourself or those around you like:

  • “I’m Starving”
  • “I’m Ravenous”
  • “I’m so hungry, I could eat a horse”?
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I used to say them to myself all the time, especially around that 3pm afternoon lol. I would be starving. And when I did eat, I finished my plate and sometimes had second helpings, but a little while later I would feel bloated, uncomfortable and lethargic. I ate like a starving person, but the truth is I am far from Starving.

In the Western world, very few people are. The ONS (Office for National Statistics) showed that in the UK 391 people died from malnutrition in 2015, however the recent figures show about 30,000 people will die from obesity related diseases each year.

The biggest issue is, our brain doesn’t receive logic based information on the same, powerful level that it receives emotion based information. So although you logically know that you are not starving, the emotions overrule this and cause chemical changes that block the stomachs signal to your brain that you are full. Your subconsious is trying to keep you alive by making you eat more and ensuring that you do not starve.

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So you keep eating, way beyond when your stomach is telling you to stop and you feel uncomfortable and bloated and lethargic because your body is having to work harder to digest it and lay down fat.

By making a simple, easy change to how we speak to ourselves and others about food we can prevent ourselves from over-eating and enjoy the benefits of being slimmer, healthier and having more energy.

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Stop using hyperbolic language and be honest with yourself. You are not starving. You are not experiencing famine. When you feel hungry say these phrases instead,

“I’m peckish”

“I could eat soon”

“I could use a bite to eat”

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These phrases are a lot less emotive and have no negative affect on your mind. There is no conflict in the mind and there is no need for it to cause you to eat in excess, leaving you free to only want to eat the amounts of food your body needs and can use and live a slimmer, healthier more energetic life.


3 things you can do to keep the winter blues at bay3 things you can do to keep the winter blues at bay

Winter is a tough time of year for many people. The long, dark evenings can make it feel like there’s no hope left in the world and that we’re all just doomed to be miserable forever. But winter doesn’t have to be a season where you hibernate at home and dread going outside. There are plenty of things you can do to keep the winter blues at bay! Here are 3 ways you can beat those winter blues this season:

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1) turn on some music

Music affects our mood in so many ways, if you don’t believe me, next time you go to watch a horror movie watch part of it with the sound off. Suddenly it isn’t scary anymore. Music can make us mournful or scared, or it can give us a boost and fill us full of those happy endorphins while dancing around the kitchen.

If when you wake up it is still dark outside and you are on your second cup to get you moving, put on your favourite happy music while you get ready and you will soon be full of energy and optimism for the day.

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2) get out into nature

There is no such things as bad weather – only inappropriate clothes

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Now is the perfect time to get to the shops and get yourself a winter coat you feel good in, that keeps you warm without feeling like the Michelin man. Put it on and go outside. Exercise is amazing for your mood, and when coupled with the joy of being in nature it has a very real physiological affect on the body and mind.

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3) Start a journal

I think this is one of the most important for me, you can use an app like I do, such as Beautiful Mood, or any notepad you can pick up.

At the end of the day, write down 3 things you are grateful for.

Underneath that, write down 3 things you acheived today.

And finally write a statement that empowers you, for example “I AM ENOUGH” or “I AM HEALTHY AND LOVE WALKING OUTSIDE”.

Now that you have the tools to create a happier winter, don’t forget to take advantage of them. You can book your FREE consultation call with me today and get started on making this winter better than ever! The only thing left for you is to put on some music, go outside and journal your way to happiness in these next few months. I’ll see you soon 🙂


Lose the Guilt, lose the weightLose the Guilt, lose the weight

This is one of the few pictures I could dig out of me when I was bigger (and this isn’t me at my biggest).

I never felt comfortable in my own skin. If I felt an emotion (any emotion) I needed to eat. Celebrating, let’s get a takeaway or go out. Commiserating, we better get two family bars of chocolate, a couple of share bags of sweets and a tub of ice-cream each.

Bored? Eat.

Stressed? Eat.

Lonely? Eat.

It was like there was an empty hole inside of me, that try as I might, I couldn’t fill.

There was an empty hole there though, just not the kind that you can put Snicker’s into (believe me, I really tried).

This was a hole where my guilt and shame lived. My guilt for surviving my childhood, my guilt for not protecting those around me. My guilt for being too tired to sing the long lullaby so I sang the shorter one instead. All of it.

It was where the voice lived that told me “I’m worthless”, “I’m a whore”, “I deserve to be fat and ugly, what does it matter, I’ll end up alone anyway”.

The more I tried to fill it with food, the more I tried to block out the dickhead with comfort foods and sugar, the louder and larger it became.

In the end, I realised that the hole had to be healed another way, and the answer wasn’t hidden under a pizza base.

Through Rapid Transformational Therapy, I released the guilt I had been holding onto, I absolved myself of my survivors guilt, I forgave myself for the ways I let my trauma subconsciously influence my behaviour. I forgave myself for being tired and learnt all the different ways my past was affecting me. Knowledge is the enemy of shame, and once I understood myself, there was no longer any shame.

There was no longer any guilt and I automatically found that I ate less. I wanted less because I wasn’t trying to fill a chasm inside me, I was finally whole.

For the first time since before I started high school, I felt whole.

I am enough

I love the person I am.

I am proud of how far I have come.

If you had told me this was possible when I was at my lowest point, I wouldn’t have believed you. I could not have believed that in just three sessions, I could rid myself of stress and anxiety. Let alone get to the root of the stress, which was linked to so many things that I felt were wrong with me and my life.

Not only did I overcome anxiety but I know that I am enough and have become the best, fittest version of myself without dieting or forcing myself to pursue horrid gym workouts.

I want to be the first person you contact when it comes time to let go of guilt and shed excess weight automatically. I help people just like you find a renewed sense of clarity, happiness, and vitality that can last a lifetime. And I’ve done this without making any major changes in my lifestyle—just with one simple step at a time. Let’s work together so you can have these same powerful results too! Get started by booking your FREE consultation call today!